Being the Force of Reason in a Chaotic Exchange
There has emerged a new trend in which people are finding it hard to keep a logical and reasonable conversation going for long. You shall readily see this not just on social media, but also when people gather for festivities. These cases will show up the moment a conversation gets going. The words we use carry a lot of weight, more so now than ever before.
This has made it hard to have easier conversations. People are now actively avoiding talking to each other. But there are times when it is unavoidable. It is also important that we remember the power and beauty of conversation. This is what motivates the desire to learn more about the means of holding conversations that may turn bad.
You need first to shed the opposing side’s style of talking. Most topics can easily be turned into such a format that breeds fights. You can counter that escalation by not taking a particular side. Alternatively, you can ask the other party to also refrain from making the situation worse. this could take you a while, but you can manage to do so with time.
You need to learn to start each of your sentence with a deep breath. Do this every time you need to respond in a conversation that is escalating to a shouting match. You need to wait your turn then till the other party is done speaking. Ask if they are done before responding. Breathing is the best way to moderate your speech and to remove all traces of negative emotion in them.
You also need to ask more questions. Whoever is asked the questions will feel great as a reference point, and will also produce more meaningful ideas. You will also get time to regroup. This also allows the other person to see things in a more evolved way. This way, both of you have something substantial to talk about, and more meaningful conclusions to reach at the end of it. You will also notice that there are fewer emotions as you keep talking. You will field questions that get them to elaborate on their ideas, or to illustrate them further. These questions enable you to learn more, and keep away the emotions.
You need to conclude the conversation in agreement then. Arguments are not the best way to end such conversations. Difficult conversations can, however, be steered towards a more agreeable conclusion. You can list those things you agree on and end with both parties acknowledging them.
To make the most of the tips shared here, you all need to be active listeners and present in the moment.